I wrote a letter to a friend recently who was feeling really discouraged, almost like giving up on one of the beautiful and powerful ways she shares her gifts with her community. Someone bluntly expressed their disapproval of how she’s been sharing her gifts, and shamed her for it. Have you ever felt that way? Has this ever happened to you? Or is this one of the fears that is keeping you from putting yourself out there?
Many of us have had experiences like this one, in this and other lifetimes (often much worse in other lifetimes) and it can be the thing that holds us back from owning who we are and expressing our gifts through our business (not to mention getting paid for it).
For those times when you’re feeling discouraged or afraid to share your gifts, teachings or offerings with the world… If you’re afraid you’ll be shamed or outcast or persecuted for it (or it’s happened to you)… If you’re in the middle of an uplevel and you’re feeling vulnerable about moving into your bigger expression… this is for you.
Dear Beautiful Soul,
Please don’t stop the beautiful work you’re doing. Please don’t stop sharing your gifts. I know it can hurt to be judged or shamed when someone doesn’t agree with what you’re doing, but one person doesn’t get to tell you what to do or not do.
People being judgmental, people telling you what to do or not do, people shaming you… that will often happen at a time when you’re coming into more of your power and perhaps gaining some recognition around what you’re doing. It also can ping up against the self-doubt that you still carry, so it can be healed.
You might know that I’ve gotten tons of flak from my own community just for being me. I’ve had an ex-boyfriend send out a badmouthing email campaign to everyone he had an email for, saying I was full of crap, lying about being Aboriginal, and all kinds of b.s. I’ve even had a former client send me hate email saying I’m all about the money… which is something that circulated as gossip all the time in the local indigenous community even when I was just singing and drumming (and barely getting by). Recently I’ve had 2 people troll me on Facebook and if I counted the number of times I’ve been trolled on Youtube for being a woman drummer…
On the other side of that fence though is a whole load of people who are super grateful for me and the work I do and have done, who sing my songs, who have soaked up the teachings I have shared, and who just have been inspired by me being me and not shying away from being different than everyone else. I’ve had people on Twitter and my email list tell me something I said saved them from committing suicide. I’ve seen women transform in front of my eyes from the work we’ve done together. I KNOW you have stories just like this, memories of people in your life who have appreciated your presence and support.
Imagine how many of the people you have served, plus their families and friends, have been positively impacted by you and your sharing. We never even know in many cases the difference we are making, and the ripple effect of it.
What I’ve learned in all of this is to stand in my truth, my power and my voice, be who I am fully, and let people think whatever they want. And if people don’t like what I do, that’s fine with me. They just don’t need to be in my world. An elder once said, “hurt people hurt people”.
You know what I tell people a lot? It’s all about your intentions. I KNOW your intentions are nothing but positive. Your path has led you to this place, and the people in your community are being nurtured and empowered by you and what you bring.
As a spiritual entrepreneur, you need to be super vigilant with your sacred self-care, and even more so when you are uplevelling, going through a major shift. Nobody gets to tell you what to do or not do with your sacred gifts, except YOU. And. When someone strongly disapproves of you or what you’re doing…
- It’s not about you. It’s about their own disapproval of themselves.
- Celebrate your success! Disapproval comes up when you are at a point of finding your voice in a bigger way, and stepping into more of your power.
- Approval comes too! Those already supportive of you will be even more supportive. Welcome to your uplevel!
Brenda MacIntyre – Medicine Song Woman
P.S. If you haven’t started your business yet, know that when you do, you will have those supporters and people cheering you on too… and the difference you make is worth it 500 times over.
What would you say to someone who could use some encouragement? Your encouragement can make such a huge difference in a person’s life.
Please post your own encouraging words or comments below. I always love hearing from you! 🙂
If you’ve enjoyed this SWEET Success article, you can go get your free Medicine Bundle for Your Business, and a subscription to my SWEET Success Soundbytes, videos and ezine at SuccessShaman.com. I’m Brenda MacIntyre, Medicine Song Woman. Blessings of sweet success to you. Until next time, or as we say in the Ojibwe language, ba ma pii.