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How to Get Back on Track when You’re Off the Rails #TruthbyBrenda

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We all go off the rails at some point and need to find our way back to ourselves.

I’ve had things go a little bit wrong, like everyone else, all the way to large scale off the map traumatic events.

When things aren’t going quite the way you hoped, remember: We all have our inner wisdom.

Observe your own process – past and present. What is helping you get back on track right now? What has helped you in the past? What hasn’t?

Our brains love the familiar and to keep us there, so the more familiar you get with patterns that have worked for you, the more easily they will pop up in your mind when you need them. I learned that from a mentor but over the years I had already experienced this teaching.

If you want something to happen, create a plan. Does that mean the plan is the be all and end all?


It means you have action steps that will get you to one of two places:

  1. The result you want.
  2. A fork in the road, where you will need to take more action steps. Those action steps will either get you to the result you want or show you that you don’t even need those results in the first place.

It’s true that many times we make a plan it can get derailed – but that doesn’t mean YOU have to get derailed. You can begin to recognize those patterns that work for you or don’t, and adjust your actions accordingly.

When things are going sideways, or the path is completely destroyed so you can’t go any further, you don’t have to give up!

Instead of giving up, activate your creativity, your passion, your creative spirit and your creative mind.

You can’t do that from a place of resignation, unless you pause long enough to open yourself to a solution or new path. How do you do that?

When I think about what happens for me when things go sideways, even horribly wrong, I see myself within a circle, with spokes out to various paths. Quantum physics tells us there are many paths, many realities available to us in any given moment.

Creativity opens up your perception so you can see some of those other possible paths, even if you’re in a dark night of the soul.

You know how your GPS automatically recalculates and reroutes you if you went “the wrong way”? That GPS gets you back on track for your destination after an unexpected detour.

We human beings have much more than the ability to recalculate where we’re going…

Something goes wrong. Maybe your great plan looks like a failure. Or something goes terribly wrong and you’re suddenly launched into grief or trauma or crisis.

IMPORTANT: If you’re in a crisis, or you’ve just had an unexpected major loss, everything will probably seem like a blur because you’re in shock. You need to get yourself through the main impact of the shock before making big decisions. You’re going to need help to do that and it might take some time. Be gentle with yourself and find a way to get some help if that’s you. Once you have support, these steps can help you.

Your Path to Getting Back on Track

First, you are a big choice point. Maybe you give up. Maybe you keep on pushing, even though you can feel it’s as if you’re just digging a deeper pit to climb out of. Or maybe…

You PAUSE and open yourself to new ideas. Or if you’re in grief or a crisis, you just pause, period. Let yourself be supported and take the downtime you need.

During the pause, you can access your creativity and open up your intuition and spiritual pathway to the Divine. If it helps, do something artistic or crafty to break you out of the spell of perceived failure or disappointment.

This is also where the GPS comes in. What alternate routes exist or could be opened up in order to achieve the result you were aiming for? What new plans need to be made to pick up where your life took a detour? What if you let your creativity lead you?

Inspiration comes sailing down through your crown and bubbling up through your sacral chakra. When you pause and breathe consciously, and that pathway to the Divine opens up, and you let your creativity flow, the inevitable response from you and Spirit is inspiration.

Pick at least one solid idea that feels good and also like at least a small leap.

Take action from that inspiration and from that place of feeling good about your idea.

Yes, you might need to build up the momentum again, but guess what? You’re moving again. You’re inspired, which means your actions are packed with exponentially more possibility and energy than before. And now, instead of having to climb out of a huge pit, you see there is another easier way out of that pit, or maybe you find that the pit holds something special for you that you weren’t even aware of before.

Your creativity is crucial. Nourish it, play with it, love it and let it live and lead you. It is so deeply connected to your spirit that they are inseparable.

Even if you’re in shock or trauma, these steps can still help. Just spread them out, go easy on yourself, give yourself a lot of extra time, and get support.

Love & Blessings,

Brenda MacIntyre, Medicine Song Woman



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  1. Samantha Gove

    You’re strength is inspirational.


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About Brenda MacIntyre

About Brenda MacIntyre

Known by her indigenous name Medicine Song Woman, Brenda MacIntyre has shared her evocative melodic voice and fusion of reggae, rap and indigenous hand drum healing music with appreciative audiences of 30 to 3,000 across North America. The Toronto-based Juno Award-winning singer has been featured nationally on MuchMusic, CTV, CP24, APTN and most recently, Global and the front page of the Toronto Star.

Powered by her grief from losing her son to murder in 2016, Brenda MacIntyre pours her soulful voice over a confluence of indigenous hand drum healing, soft rap and conscious roots reggae in her album “Picking Up the Pieces,” released in September 2019.

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