I feel like I’m having a spiritual identity crisis. That’s because I am. Me, my business, my health and my spiritual development. We’ve been going through some major evolution once again. I wrote that line originally in 2015, the year before my son died, and here I am again. Living through the 2020s, it’s no surprise that so many of us are making (or forced to make) big changes in our lives.
You know that itch to recreate yourself? That impossible-to-ignore urge to do something different, bigger, deeper?
That’s what it feels like when a spiritual identity crisis gets to bubble up from within us. If we pay attention and follow that urge, we open ourselves up to possibility and purpose. That feels almost like a privilege in the 2020s, where we’ve spent several years now trying to figure out who we are, what to do and how to find our ground with all the shifting.
One of the weirdest gifts of the 2020s is that we have been thrown into a necessary transformation, within ourselves but also on a much larger scale. We have a chance to let go of what has kept us from being who we are. We are being led home to ourselves, individually and as a human collective.
When you allow your own evolution, it doesn’t just stop when you think you’ve somehow “arrived”. It keeps on going. Waves and bursts of spiritual upgrades. The scary, frustrating moments in between. And thankfully, the beautiful plateaus we get to rest on for a while once we’ve had an upgrade or uplevel.
The problem with a Spiritual Identity Crisis is that it can become a very compelling excuse for holding back or hiding out when your spirit is being called into something more.
Are You Having A Spiritual Identity Crisis?
The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines “identity crisis” as a feeling of unhappiness and confusion caused by not being sure about what type of person you really are or what the true purpose of your life is.
My definition of a Spiritual Identity Crisis is: a feeling of dissatisfaction, disorientation, confusion and fear in the midst of a strong urge to understand who you really are and find your voice. You may or may not know what your purpose is, but you can feel that you need to activate it somehow.
Can you relate? What does your life want from you? What pivots have you made, whether out of necessity or growth?
I could go in a million directions but I can only pick one. Not just one thing I get to do, but one path I get to do it on. I can’t split myself into a million Brenda’s (well, on a multi-dimensional level maybe but that’s another subject lol), so I have to choose a path… or let the path choose me. In the 2020s, for a lot of us, the path chooses us and we may not know what lies ahead.
Checklist: If ANY of these are true, you might be having a spiritual identity crisis.
- I’ve had no choice but to pivot.
- I’ve lost a very close loved on and don’t know what to do with myself.
- I KNOW I’m supposed to be doing something different.
- Something has to change but I don’t know what or how.
- All the spiritual advisors I’m seeing say the same thing – that I have this big purpose and I need to step into it.
- I’m afraid of my own power.
- It’s like a portal is in front of me, trying to suck me in, but I’m afraid of what’s on the other side, so I keep resisting.
- I feel like I’m pregnant and the baby is about to come.
- I can’t handle all this waiting. Why aren’t we there yet??
- I don’t know who I am any more. Maybe I never did. What is my purpose?
- Something is missing.
- I’m bored. What used to bring me joy doesn’t anymore.
- The people in my life don’t get me or appreciate me.
- I’m tired of going through the motions. Somebody please show me something better.
Sound familiar? If ANY of these at all are true for you, you’re likely in a Spiritual Identity Crisis.
There’s nothing wrong with you. You are connecting with YOU.
Take a deep breath into your belly, exhale, and let me share some tips with you on how to connect with that deeper part of you.
A lot of us are in transition right now, so if you are having a spiritual identity crisis, it’s not just you. It’s been going on for a while and it has definitely escalated in the 2020s… but you can learn how to ride the waves.
Self-care is extremely important right now and any time you’re in a spiritual identity crisis. Go easy on yourself when things don’t seem to work out. Don’t give up. Your plans and what your life looks like will probably need to change to allow you to fully express who you are.
Get support when and how you need it. Doing this alone is a lot harder. Yes, connecting with Spirit and intuition are awesome, but remember to seek out and ask for human help along the way.
Go with the flow. Paying attention to the little things is important.
It’s time to see from the eye of the observer – that part of you who sees all without judgment. Then you can make decisions from a place of deep knowing and connection, rather than from a place of fear. That doesn’t mean all fear will disappear. It means when you are in the flow, you are more in touch with your true identity.
What’s your story? Who are you NOW? Who were you before your transformation? Who are you becoming?
I love journaling. I can see my growth and read about my shifts. I can get amazing insights from my spirit just by writing what’s on my heart. I can see the spiritual identity crises I’ve been through and where they have taken me. Here are a few journaling prompts to help you connect with different aspects of your identity, and to allow it – You – to unfold:
Notice what you feel called to do or where you feel called to be.
What are you drawn to?
What is inspiring you?
What in your life has caused you to dig into more of who you are or can become?
Share on the blog! It will create some accountability for you and help you to OWN who you really are.
Love & Blessings,
Brenda MacIntyre, Medicine Song Woman
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