Music with a Message Series Episode 6: Life After Loss Lullabye
Some of the songs on the album don’t have actual lyrics, but instead have “vocables”, sounds rooted in indigenous languages, in my case the Ojibwe language, Anishnaabemowin.
— “Life After Loss Lullaby” by Brenda MacIntyre
TODAY’S SONG & MESSAGE OF HOPE:
O we o we ay heya waya hiya
This hand drum healing song brings you into the sweet medicine of your own love for the loved ones you have lost, whether by death, a relationship ending, or any other reason.
The song is also an invitation to a soft shedding, layer by layer, of the person you were before the loss, and the life you wish you could have had. At some point after your loss, you will feel life calling you. Answer that call by being kind to yourself, and following your soul’s prompts.
When you listen to your true self, your soul, what you truly feel like doing?
Not what do you think you should do, but what do you FEEL like doing? Maybe you feel like crying and yelling. Maybe you feel like laughing or going for a walk. About a year after I lost my son, I began asking myself this question all the time, to keep me in my heart and soul, so that I could reconnect to those parts of me, the Truth of who I am in any moment and who I am becoming.
TRY THIS: Listen to the song. Give yourself a few minutes to check in with yourself – your body, mind and energy. How are you feeling? No need to change anything. Just be. Allow yourself to notice what’s present for you.
Final thoughts: The true YOU – the spark of a spirit that was born in this lifetime in your body – wants to LIVE. The true you loves the rest of you unconditionally. It’s the other parts of ourselves that get fearful, judgy or lose interest in life. I’ve never considered suicide as an option, perhaps because my mother committed suicide, but if you do, please get yourself some support. When I talk about doing what you FEEL like doing, I’m talking about that deeper part of you.
I know sometimes with heavy grief it can be hard to reach that part of you. Be easy with yourself if this is what’s happening for you. Please don’t go through this alone. I isolate myself a lot but I also make sure I get support.
Hope this helps. Please feel welcome to share it with friends you know who are experiencing grief, trauma, loss or chronic pain.
Love & Light,
Brenda MacIntyre, Medicine Song Woman
In Memory of Brenda MacIntyre’s son Quinn Taylor, this album features 2 songs inspired by Quinn’s trap music. The songs on this album span reggae, soft rap and indigenous hand drum singing, with Brenda’s usual soulful vocal flavour and a hint of funk and R&B.
Just like Brenda’s last 3 albums, this one is being created in ceremony, infused with specific intentions and emotional and healing energy, to help people to feel love, connection and joy even alongside grief, chronic pain, identity crisis or trauma.
About Brenda MacIntyre
Medicine Song Woman Brenda MacIntyre, author and artist of the Medicine Song Oracle Cards™ & Music, is a Juno Award-winning singer, motivational speaker, indigenous drummer and wisdom-keeper. Brenda has shared her leadership and soul nationally on stage and in the media, such as MuchMusic, APTN, CTV, CP24, Global and CityTV’s Breakfast Television, as well as CBC Radio. Having experienced major loss and fear of being seen and heard, she is passionate about helping women to bring out their playfulness, edge and inner rebel, so they can live a life brimming with self-authority and soul-satisfying expression.