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Music with a Message Series Episode 11: Living Past the Limits

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Everywhere I go
I see so many possibilities
Deep down you know
We can override our history

— Lyrics from “Living Past the Limits” by Brenda MacIntyre


The planet clearly is shifting, and so are we. There is a blanket of confusion over us and at the same time equal access to total clarity.

When we can admit that we don’t know what to do, we open the portal to our deep inner knowing, our intuition and higher guidance. As long as you think you have all the answers, the unlimited possibilities for what could happen next are cut off.

If you’re grieving, you have an even deeper opportunity, as painful as it is, to be present with the “I don’t know” and just be in it. The only other option is denial, which is part of the grieving process anyway, but if you can allow yourself to not know, to relinquish control over the uncontrollable, you’re giving yourself a gift. I don’t know what will happen next. I don’t know why this happened. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to live my life now. All of those have been true for me many times over on this grief journey. And from those experiences I have received many knowings and made some really powerful decisions, like making this album.

So what if you didn’t have to know what comes next?

The truth is, you don’t have to know… until you’re on the cusp of a next step. If you are, you will be shown what to do or say next. You might still not know the outcome – we really never can because so many factors outside of ourselves could come into play – but you know all you need to know to take that next step. In fact, even if you have no clue whatsoever what to do next, if you just sit with that not-knowing, the next step will show up. Maybe it’s just to sit there and breathe. Maybe you’ll be inspired to create something. But you won’t know until you allow the not-knowing.

TRY THIS: I have a whole chapter on “I don’t know” in the book I’m writing, but for now, just let yourself not know what to do or say. Sit with that experience for at least 5 minutes and see what pops up. Don’t worry if your mind wanders. That’s just part of the process, and could be how your next steps are revealed.

Final thoughts: Life can feel like a series of tough choices, but it’s really a series of possibilities. You can unlock the possibilities by being in the not-knowing.

The only way through “I don’t know” is to allow it to exist and to be present with it.

Deep down you know that your history does not have to define you. You’re in this present moment right now. What can you do differently to create lasting positive change in your life?

It’s what we do with what we’re given that really matters.

Hope this helps. Please feel welcome to share it with friends you know who are experiencing grief, trauma, loss or chronic pain.

Love & Blessings,

Brenda MacIntyre, Medicine Song Woman



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  1. Marlene McPherson

    Inspiring message! Thanks.


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About Brenda MacIntyre

About Brenda MacIntyre

Known by her indigenous name Medicine Song Woman, Brenda MacIntyre has shared her evocative melodic voice and fusion of reggae, rap and indigenous hand drum healing music with appreciative audiences of 30 to 3,000 across North America. The Toronto-based Juno Award-winning singer has been featured nationally on MuchMusic, CTV, CP24, APTN and most recently, Global and the front page of the Toronto Star.

Powered by her grief from losing her son to murder in 2016, Brenda MacIntyre pours her soulful voice over a confluence of indigenous hand drum healing, soft rap and conscious roots reggae in her album “Picking Up the Pieces,” released in September 2019.

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