I love when someone else’s Facebook post stirs up fodder for my articles. It’s like in a few moments of passionate commenting on a post, I’ve got my article for the week. That’s what happened here.
The question was about the Law of Attraction and what it means when good people, babies and children are suffering needlessly, like in poverty or war. Did they really choose this? Did they really attract this to themselves?
It’s an important question when it comes to being a spiritual entrepreneur, especially when things go sideways and many of us have come from a background of some kind of struggle. How do we reconcile those experiences and stay positive through the pain? When something bad happens to us, is it because we deserve it? I used to think so when I was a kid. I thought I was a jinx, making bad things happen all around me and that it must be because I’m a bad person. Hard way to live, right? With that mindset, I NEVER would have made it this far.
True Story… Here’s Why Your Experiences Matter and How to Turn That Trauma Into Transformation
You know all that talk about making 10K a month as an entrepreneur? Well, I’ve lived on less than 10K a YEAR for a lot of years, barely getting by. I remember one year looking at my income tax assessment and it said my income was $8500 for that year, and I was a single mom (and still am).
My mother committed suicide when I was 15. My dad died 2.5 years later of a heart attack and I found him. For a lot of years, I was lost, didn’t know who I was, and I ended up stuck in a pattern of abusive relationships and poverty.
I didn’t even know what true joy felt like until I had a sudden “out of nowhere” intense joy experience in 1998 – in my 30’s. It was in my 30’s that I realized I needed support, and I got on my healing journey and proceeded to turn my life around.
Between 1998 and 2008 I had so many spiritual awakenings I can’t even count them. I was on the path. I had been told by a Navajo medicine woman that I’m a healer in 1998 and finally took that role in 2008 after a dark night of the soul.
In the past few years, I’ve been having ripples of spiritual upgrades over and over. I know I’m not the only one. A lot of us are going through these upgrades to get us more aligned with who we are. That’s something I help my clients with as well.
After running a business for years without a clue about how to do business, I finally got support, coaching and training to do that better too.
Now here I am looking like an “overnight success”, still a single mom, happy, fulfilled, living my purpose and making an income I never would’ve thought possible just a few years ago. And still I’m having struggles here and there to glean new teachings and blessings from.
Did I really choose this life?
Did I attract these situations to myself?
Think about this for a minute.
What If You Never Went Through The Struggles Of Your Past Or Present?
If I had never lived through my mother committing suicide, I would never have had the tweets and emails I’ve had from people saying thank you, your tweet/email saved my life today.
I never would have been able to help a room full of depressed and suicidal indigenous youth because I couldn’t have earned their trust if my life had been all unicorns and rainbows.
I never would have received my own healing technique if I hadn’t had a dark night of the soul in 2007-2008.
I would never have had this beautiful journey of finding my voice and developing powerful spiritual abilities, which is exactly what I help my clients do.
I wouldn’t have my 2 beautiful children. I couldn’t help my clients. In fact, I wouldn’t have had a successful business without all that trauma. Can you believe that? Breathe that in for second.
Any trauma you have been through or are going through can actually feed your soul and your business if you let it.
Do I think I deserved to have my mother commit suicide or my dad die, or be abused and live in poverty? No.
Would I take any of this back and not have to go through it again? No. My spirit chose to come into this body and this lifetime to experience some things, so that I could make a difference. And it’s been amazing so far, even with all the pain.
If you’re struggling with your business right now, or your personal life, know that at some point, you’ll be able to give meaning to whatever you’re going through.
This is why your sacred story – the stuff you’ve gone through and how you made it through – is so important to your business!! If you are a mentor, healer, intuitive, empath, coach, practitioner, spiritual teacher, spiritual leader or author, your story is everything. It’s why your ideal client wants to work with you. If your people can’t relate to you, they won’t buy from you and you can’t help them.
That whole “find your purpose” thing? That’s what this is about. Making your story count. Helping people with what you came here to learn about, go through and heal from.
A Little Caveat…
I know there are some of you out there who really haven’t had to struggle. You’ve had a great life and you and your spiritual and personal growth were supported. There is nothing wrong with that either. We each have our roles to play. We each have our sacred contract with our soul and human body.
Yes, we did sign up for this. And isn’t it amazing that we of all beings in the Universe get to live on Mother Earth and fulfill our purpose in this Shift at this time? Such a blessing.
Here’s to making it count!
I’d love to hear what you think of all of this. Post on the blog. All opinions are welcome.
See you next week.
Lots of Love & Blessings,
Brenda MacIntyre – Medicine Song Woman